This morning I had the opportunity to see, yet again, how my conversation impacts my life on an everyday basis. You may or may not have experienced this for yourself or even know what the heck I am talking about or this may sound like familiar knowledge to you but what I really mean is this...
I realized, while I was on the phone this morning, that they way I said something actually expressed a "created truth," "The way it is!" about the way I was percieving an aspect of my life from a negative viewpoint.
My new friend, Lisa Bard Clement, on the other end of the phone, who is very committed to saying what is so from the perspective of "What You Say Creates Your World," reminded me of something I know to be a very powerful, magically magnetic and that what I had just said had me leaning in the direction of and actually bolstering up what I didn't like or want in my life, verses sharing what was going on for me in this arena from the other side of the perspective

A video of the The Author of the book Awesome

This is worth a watch!
Click on the link or on the title above and it will bring you to the You Tube Video!
Enjoy!
You're Awesome to me!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yd53yY_3dX4&feature=player_embedded

A Good Day!

Take 5 minutes and enjoy a refreshing perspective on your day, Today!

Do You Have Lasting Anger!

Take a look at where your anger is placed and what you are angry about.

Often, we get angry when we feel out of control regarding some presented aspect of life.

Thus, the control of our lives is the issue not the aspect presented.

If that’s even a little true for you, I have good news and bad news;

you are in control of everything, even and especially your reactions.

Determining how you want your experience of life to be,

regardless of circumstances, is not wishing it so.

It is the fundamental requirement for

freedom of choice and deep, lasting, personal happiness.

Otherwise, you are the ball in the pinball machine called life,

with no personal recourse or direction.

You could just wait and see what happens but,

that is just more of the same.

Or, you could take on self determination,

personal awareness and

definition of what matters.

As you begin to discover what you really want

from your life experience

and plot a course full of inspired actions

you will see immediate results.

Achieving happiness requires uncovering

what’s holding you in place

and choosing if you still want the result

those behaviors and reactions offer.

Be Your Best

Don't Accept Anything Less Than the Best You Can Be
Learn never to blame another for the pain you feel,

nor to complain about anything that life brings to your door;

but this doesn't mean to be accepting of those who would see you ache,

nor should you be apathetic in the face of anything

that challenges your hopes and aspirations.

Guy Finley

Law of Attraction & The Love of Your Life

You have most likely read "something" or at least heard
about the Law Of Attraction and the process of
setting goals and focusing on what you really want.
Have you ever wondered if you can you use these
concepts to set goals when it comes to dating
or meeting the love of my life in, say, 90 days?
Or, if it is possible at all to set a goal for
something that seems so, fate driven?
Well lets take a quick look at; what this means,
if this is applicable and if so, how you would do this?

I'll begin with a question.
What if you have already met the love of your life?
Do you think that you would you know it?
Utilizing the characteristics of The Law of Attraction
requires your direct attention.
This process requires you to take a look
and identify what you really want in a partner and
what you really bring to the prospect
of actualizing your personal “love of your life” story.
Becoming more conscious of your specific requirements,
needs and desires of that ideal mate and importantly,
your ideal relationship will require you
to do some deep looking at what you hold
as valuable in these areas.
Identifying what is most important
in those categories and in your life
will give you access and clear vision
for what you say you want.
With that new clarity you will then
be able to determine who and what is a fit
for your dream love relationship.
Furthermore, since you will now be looking
specifically for the mate that fills
your very specific vision you are now
most likely to notice when that person
appears on your radar and if the personal
characteristics of the individual
and the way you move together,
is a match for you.
That’s the Law of Attraction in action!

Say Hello to your New Life Vision

You are NOT a Victim of Circumstance!
You are, however, experiencing life from your unique perspective

and, very importantly,

that perspective has you, and sometimes only you,

focus your view on certain things and experience them as only you can.
This may be why you think things are only happening to you.

But there is great, exciting news buried in this "GIFT."

Try out this short experiment, for yourself, if you have any doubt that this is true.

Stand where you are, right now, next to someone and focus your vision

and thoughts on something that is happening right in front of both of you.
Don't speak about it to the other person or even mention what you are focusing on.
When the event that you observed is over,

ask the other person what they saw,

what they thought about it

and how it made them feel.

Regardless of what you both saw,

even if by slight chance it happened to be the same event,
the way you saw it, even down to the position of viewing,
what you thought about what you saw

and especially how you felt or emotionally experienced what you saw is

uniquely personal and subjective.

This personal viewing, interpretation and taking in as true and real

can act as verifications of what you BELIEVE to be true.

As you probably noticed in your experiment

what you saw, thought about and felt

was not what the other person saw.

How can that be

when you were both looking in the same direction,

standing right nest to each other

and what you saw was right there in front of both of you

and so obvious and so REAL.

This short experiment and outcome illustrate

that it is very possible and most likely that what you are viewing as you life experience

is not necessarily the TRUTH or even REAL for that matter.

This is the GOOD NEWS!

If what you have been seeing and making mean a certain thing in your life,

especially if it has been making you feel bad

or providing you with a set of circumstances

that have you held or stuck in a way or thinking

or giving you on going results that you are not happy with,

YOU CAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU VIEW LIFE

and as a result

HAVE A NEW VIEW,

HAVE NEW THOUGHTS,

NEW FEELINGS

AND BEST OF ALL,

NEW RESULTS

It doesn't take much!

Just an Openness

that this may be true and available to you

and then you personal

Commitment and Practice!

For today,

just try the experiment a couple of times!

Your NEW LIFE Vision Begins NOW!

Extraordinary Tale of Passion, Wisdom and Compassion

The Best Gift?

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Continuation of Appreciation

Appreciation as a Secret of Success
An important reason for being in a state of appreciation as often as possible is that when you are in such a state, you are in one of the highest emotional states possible.
When you are in a state of appreciation and gratitude, you are in a state of abundance. You are appreciating what you do have instead of focusing on, and complaining about, what you don’t have. Your focus is on what you have received… and you always get more of what you focus on.
And because the law of attraction states that like attracts like, the more you are in a state of gratitude, the more you will attract, and the grateful you will feel. It becomes an upward-spiraling process of ever-increasing abundance that just keeps getting better and better.
Think about it. The more grateful people are for the gifts we give them, the more inclined we are to give them more gifts. Their gratitude and appreciation reinforces our giving. The same principle holds true on a universal and spiritual level as it does on an interpersonal level.

Keeping Score
When I first learned about the power of appreciation, it made total sense to me. However, it was still something that I forgot to do. I hadn’t yet turned it into a habit.
A valuable technique that I employed to help me lock in this new habit was to carry a 3” x 5” card in my pocket all day, and every time I acknowledged and appreciated someone, I would place a check mark on the card. I would not allow myself to go to bed until I had appreciated 10 people. If it was late in the evening and I didn’t have 10 check marks, I would appreciate my wife and children, I would send an e-mails to several of my staff, or I would write a letter to my mother or stepfather.
I did whatever it took until it became an unconscious habit. I did this every single day for 6 months—until I no longer needed the card to remind me.
Excerpted From Jack Canfield

Appreciation Is The Key!

Take a minute or two today to go back in time to a place where you were simply overjoyed and or thrilled about something you were involved in or with.
For me I used to listen to the Beatles records as loud as I could take it. Because I did not have headphones I would lay on the floor and put the two small speakers right next to my ears on either side of my head. The stereo sound was sound precise and powerful listening that way that I felt as if i were one of them and on stage with them as they played. That led me later to playing guitar, performing, recording and just simply loving music and allowing it to alter my experience of life when ever i hear it live and even it the car with the windows rolled up and blasting away while I accompany on the dashboard drums. I am moved and all of the doors of joy open up and all is really well.
Try it today. Give yourself the gift of bringing yourself into true deep appreciation for something or things that really moved you in the past and allow yourself to be moved again now.
Take a look at how the world looks from that place. Then simply look at what else you appreciate about where you are right now and what you have your attention on this day. See if anything shifts inside you.
Really enjoy yourself today!

Love/Being Heard

Being heard is so close to being loved

that for the average person,

they are almost indistinguishable.
David Augsburger

Goals

Goals
The major reason for setting a goal

is for what it makes of you to accomplish it.

What it makes of you will always be

the far greater value than what you get.
Jim Rohn

Freedom

"Sometimes you've got to let everything go—purge yourself . . .

If you are unhappy with anything . . .

whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it.

Because you'll find that when you're free,

your true creativity,

your true self comes out. "
Tina Turner (1939-) I, Tina (1986)

Serendipity

Serendipity!

Look for something,

find something else,

and realize that what you've found

is more suited to your needs

than what you thought you were looking for.

Lawrence Block

Open Yourself to What Wants to Open You

The unseen seed of every success -- of every great work of art, and every light that has ever helped illuminate the human journey -- began with someone being open to a new possibility in life and saying "Yes" to it... regardless of personal cost.

Find the Love That's Looking for You

Love is a latent interior "hunger" we all feel through our longing to know -- deeply -- someone or something to which we are drawn. And Love understands that whatever we will agree to draw near to ensures -- given time -- we will come to know it; and then, transformed by Her magic through a marriage of a sort, we become as one with what was once unknown to us.

Don't think this too strange an idea. The hidden Principle of Love is that only through Her do we find in the object of our affection something of ourselves: that proverbial missing piece of the perennially empty heart.

The beauty of Love is that She is already within everything; which means that there is nothing that we are drawn to know by Love's invitation that won't grant us for our journey itself the gift of a greater relationship with Love. Now here is what these last few ideas have been leading up to:

If we want to receive love we have to give it. What this means is that we must journey to Her before She will consent to be known. This is the courtship Love requires of those who long to possess Her. Of course it's mysterious, but who doesn't love a mystery!

Now, in far more practical terms, here are some ideas how to begin this journey of the Heart:

First, give your love to something. Do something with your love. Find something you love and then set out to make it your own. Never mind if you don't have any one love for any one thing in this life. Forget the whole idea of love for the moment and ask yourself: "To what am I drawn? What is it that interests me?"

Whatever impressions you may feel from this sincere inquiry are the invisible magnetic impulses of a secret Heart, a pulse of Love that has been buried in you beneath layers -- perhaps lifetimes -- of misdirection. That is why you must take the next few instructions to heart.

Never mind if you are attracted to something but feel unable to start because you are afraid of failing in your quest. Be assured of this: Whatever it may be that you are drawn to know -- whether it is to learn a new skill, grow a flower garden, develop an artistic skill, to help others, design clothes or cars, or set out towards a deeper interior life whose center is Love Herself -- I tell you the only thing that matters is that you just start!

You can't know this yet, but it is Love that calls you to Her side for whatever is your eventual choosing, and it is Love within you that feels this drawing. So do you know what this means? Just consider: Love will not, cannot fail Herself. It is more likely the sun would fall from the sky than for Love not to begin to shine through your nascent efforts. Your first reward will be to feel the warmth of knowing you are nearing the beginning of a whole New Life.

Forget what others may think of you for your new aim to do your heart's desire. Disregard those whose reality is a rut! Misery wants company. Do Love's bidding instead. Persist with your working wish and Love will grant you the company of Herself. And as you gradually draw nearer to Her side you will know that nothing anyone thinks towards you could possibly add one cubit to your stature.

Brush aside any concerns you have (for whatever the reasons) of being unable to make a "big" beginning. Just start where you are and with what you have -- even if this means taking a step so small that not one person on earth notices you have just left one world and entered another. Any beginning that you will make for the sake of answering the call of your heart is the same as a beginning whose happy ending already resides right within that same initial action.

Don't be the least concerned if you can't seem to find the time -- or the energy -- to get going because of life's seemingly endless "duties" to family or friends. Drop these punishing (and false) ideas. Listen instead to this promise that Love makes to anyone willing to draw near enough to hear Her whisper Her secret:

Do what you must to make time and you will see that the energy you need to succeed will be given to you.

Love lends her force to the entire universe, so don't you think that if you were to ask rightly for a bit of it -- for Her sake -- that She would give you the measure you need? Of course She will! All you need do is just make some time, give some moments to your intended journey. Even if all you can muster to get started with is two minutes a day, just place your attention on what you want to love, and it will love you back by giving you a bit of itself.

Persist with this new Work until you see -- which you will if only you will stay the course -- that the love you thought you had chosen was really Love choosing you. And when at last you realize that it has always been this way, then, for you, it will always be so... until the end of time.

How may you be assured that all of this is True?

It is Love that tells you so.

-- Guy Finley

Reexamine

Walt Whitman:

" Reexamine all that you have been told in school, or in church or in any book.

Dismiss whatever insults your soul."

The first quote from Walt Whitman gives us a mandate to review all that we have been told and thus believe or have taken on to be true. And how he says to do that is to look inside and see if it feels good or not. He then instructs us to "dismiss" whatever insults our soul.

This is some of the most useful advice we can consider. Doing this regularly will in fact have a huge affect on our well being and joyous experience of life.

Your experience is a clear indication of the thoughts that you think.

When you change the thoughts that you are thinking, your experience,

or indicator, must change also,

It is Law!

Abraham

If you are not feeling good or experiencing life from a great place than take this on;

Look at what your thoughts are right now.

Does what you are thinking right now produce a good feeling or a bad feeling?

If it is good than bask in the good feeling and think another deliberate good feeling thought from that place. Continue focusing on good feeling thoughts or all of the positive aspects of your present situation. Watch what happens from there on. It just gets better in all categories!

If you are feeling bad than ask your self, from where you are presently standing, what is one better feeling thought that I could have right now?

Notice one thing around you that you could appreciate some aspect of?

Choose to have one better feeling thought about any aspect of anything at even the smallest detail level. In example, the color of the wallpaper, the interesting pattern in the carpet, the color of the sky or sun or leaves or flowers around you. Put yourself in the presence of your pet or some aspect of nature and appreciate some aspect of that which you have chosen.

There is nothing more to do. Do this is any moment you choose and find a way to choose a better feeling thought about anything at any time and it will continue to catapult your view of your life and put you in alignment with what you came here to accomplish.

Your own happiness and expansion.

Dreams

"When your heart is in your dreams,

no request is too extreme."

Jiminy Cricket

Pushing Hard

I have said many times that I can look back on my life

and see where I spent a lot of time trying to push things into place.

I would manipulate the facts, push through the tough spots, stay later,

work harder, never surrender, argue and fight and take a stand.

In essence, I would ignore all the signs that I can now see

were sent my way to say, "you can choose another path,

one that feels better and comes with ease.

Your life could be sweeter, if you would stop resisting and pushing against us."

I have learned how easy and full and sweet life can be.

It all comes in the forms of Asking, Believing and Allowing.

That's all!

Nothing to it really but, many of us are still convinced

that we have to go through the fire

to get to the purified Gold of this life experience.

It Just Isn't So!

In fact it is exactly the opposite.

Listen to what Abraham has to say about this.

"The harder you push against anything, the more you attract its essence!

When you find some unwanted thing that you want to

shout NO! at, shout briefly,

and then turn your attention to the thing

YOU DO WANT!

Any attention to anything

is a practicing of the vibration

that will bring it unto you."

Listening

Brenda Ueland
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force...
When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.
Ideas actually begin to grow within us and come to life...
When we listen to people there is an alternating current, and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other...and it is this little creative fountain inside us that begins to spring and cast up new thoughts and unexpected laughter and wisdom. ...
Well, it is when people really listen to us, with quiet facinated attention, that the little fountain begins to work again, to accelerate in the most surprising way.

Real Life Enlightenment!

Your enlightenment,

in fact, your only true path to bliss

on this plane, relies solely on the acknowledgement that

You stem from Source!

You are one in the same!

This is good news!

The best way to know where you stand

in relationship to your connection

with your source alignment is;

How do you feel?

Your feelings are a gift!

They are your true gauge or indicator.

If you feel bad, your moving away from alignment.

If you feel good, your moving closer

to your alignment with Source.

When you notice where you are

in regard to your feelings,

You can make an adjustment

to feel better, closer to alignment.

The better it gets the better it gets!

Don't get stuck or worry about being stuck

It is always temporary

just make the adjustment now

to a better feeling thought.

Look and List the positive aspects

of what ever you have your focus on

right now.

Your adjustment will begin!

You are on this physical plane by choice

but you remain mostly non physical.

You are here to co create

You have come here to joyously expand

that which was previously known.

What an honor you have chosen!

"For Better": The science of marital unhappiness

(Click on the WHITE title above

to read an excerpt of this new book,

interesting reading)

Our divorce rate is a myth?

Snoring causes breakups?

A new book applies rigorous research to the modern marriage
As it turns out, much of what you think about the state of the American marriage is wrong: Half of marriages don’t end in divorce; married people don’t have less sex than their single counterparts and -- surprise! -- fighting can actually be beneficial to your relationship. That is what Tara Parker-Pope, a health journalist and the woman behind the New York Times' Well blog, discovered while researching her new book, "For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage." In the book, Parker-Pope argues that the marital bond isn't nearly as mysterious as you might believe, and unlike the vast majority of authors on the subject, she uses credible scientific research to back up her claims about everything from sex to housework.

Learn to Release all Resentments

Learn to Release all Resentments

If you're tired of being a slave to a painful relationship out of your past, this study in how to release resentments is sure to bring welcome relief.

Unconscious conflicts, in dialogue form, play themselves out in our mind by painfully reenacting various scenes from our past; moments gone by in which we either know, or sense, we were compromised by our own weakness.

If these inner dialogues were left to themselves as they popped into our mind, they'd be as powerless to disturb us as an echo is to change its own sound. Where we get into trouble, when resentment rules, is when we're unknowingly drawn into these scenes out of our past and find ourselves interacting with a cast of ghost players! The ensuing mental dialogue is always a desperate but futile attempt to change what has already been said and done so that maybe this time around we can come out a winner.

Are you tired of going twelve rounds in routine fight scenes that always turn out the same?

Try this step for the winning solution.

If you sat down on a metal bench and suddenly realized the midday sun had heated it way beyond the comfort zone, you'd stand up as quickly as you could. The same intelligence behind this instinctive physical reaction can help you release all resentments and drop their dark inner dialogues.

Each time you catch yourself in a dark inner dialogue, of any kind, use your awareness of the conflict it's creating within you as a springboard to help you leap out of those scary scenes from your past into the safety of the present moment. Then, instead of giving yourself back over to those inner voices of conflict that are still trying to converse with you, remain aware of yourself in the present moment, and of their continuing beckoning presence.

No matter how many times you hear in your mind those fighting words that have always prompted you to jump into that dark dialogue, refuse to join in. Ground yourself in your awareness of the present moment.

The unconscious resentment responsible for creating heated scenes from the past cannot follow you into the now, which means no dark inner dialogue can tag along either. Why? Because when you're no longer a captive of your own past, then you can recognize its ghost voices as the source of psychic intrusion they really are.

Learn to ask for a happy, new life by refusing to relive what's been tearing at you.

-- Guy Finley

Discover Your Right to Rule Every Moment of Life!

What "was" is only as powerful as we make it... what is.

The Art Of Happiness

The art of living

does not consist in preserving and clinging to

a particular mood of happiness,

but in allowing happiness to change its form

without being disappointed by the change;

for happiness, like a child,

must be allowed to grow up.

Charles Langbridge Morgan

The Better it Gets!!!

Have you ever noticed that the way you approach the day or any event for that matter sets the tone for how you feel for the entire day/event?

If you can see this, than it makes real good sense to start your day or your approach, intentionally.

Take a few minutes or even one minute if you have not three to speak the positive aspects of this moment. What do you see, what can you say and how can you think about your moment right now that uplifts you.

Can you see how great it is to be up and moving, something great about the weather, your surroundings, where you live, the color of the sky, a person smiling in your presence, any and every thing you can think of in that minute that shows up as a positive aspect.

If your feeling great before you begin this will move you to even greater feelings.

"The better it gets the better it gets!"

It is surprising how when you are making these awareness's and shifts

that the better it gets the better it gets. It snowballs down stream.

"Whatever your state of being - whatever the way you feel -

you are attracting more of the essence of that."

Money and the Law of Attraction

Esther and Jerry Hicks

Opinions/Growth

If, in the last few years,

you haven't discarded a major opinion

or acquired a new one,

check your pulse.

You may be dead.

~Gelett Burgess~

Knowledge/Wisdom

"Knowledge is learning something every day.

Wisdom is letting go of something every day".

Zen Proverb

Food

When I walk into my kitchen today, I am not alone.

Whether we know it or not, none of us is.

We bring fathers and mothers and kitchen tables,

and every meal we have ever eaten.

Food is never just food.

It's also a way of getting at something else:

who we are, who we have been, and who we want to be.

Molly Wizenberg,

A Homemade Life: Stories and Recipes from My Kitchen Table, 2009

Control of your Existence

Regain Your Right to Be Self-Ruling

Have you ever gotten angry at a knot? Maybe you couldn't get your shoelace undone, or clear that fishing line. A knot in a thin gold or silver neck chain can be especially difficult. When you fight with a knot you feel frustration. Now, if you think about it logically, clearly the knot has no intelligence of its own with which to thwart your intentions or make you feel angry. Yet when you fight with it, you fall under its power. You feel yourself to be at the mercy of the knot.

Since the knot itself has no power to act upon you, where is the power coming from that puts you under the influence of the knot? From one place only: your perception. Your perception of the knot is the only power it has, and that power is not in it; it is in you! You cannot be free of the frustration or anger you feel in not being able to untangle the knot until you learn to separate the fact of the thing from the power of it. It is a fact that the rope has a knot, but it is not a fact that the knot has power. It is your perception that attributes power to it.

We frequently feel ourselves to be under the power of things. We feel we are the victims of an unfair social system, economic upheavals, painful relationships -- even a lawn chair that won't unfold right. We fight these conditions, feeling ourselves to be under their "dark" influence. The fact is, however, these events do not exist as negative events except for our perception of them. The only power they have is the power we give them. What is the proof? Someone else observing the same event may not see it as negative at all. If we separate the facts from what we perceive as a thing's power, we are on the way to freeing ourselves from all things that bother us. Your wish to understand your pain by shining the light of Truth on it will show you where to break the thought connection through which you give your life energy to events that would otherwise have no power over you. If you truly wish to be free, you can even shine that light back into what feels like your own hard or cold past, and the warm light of Truth will melt all those long past difficulties dwelling there until eventually nothing about your life will have the power to bother you again.

-- Guy Finley

Your Feelings!

Nobody But You Can Make You Feel Badly
The unseen contradiction in hating any given moment of life

is that what we actually hate in such a moment

is the way that we have consented to feel about it.

Guy Finley

Asking For What You Want

"Find the courage to ask for what you want.

The others have the right to say yes or no,

but you always have the right to ask.

Either way,

everyone has the right to ask you

for what they want and

you have the right to say yes or no."

Don Miguel Ruiz-

The Four Agreements

Enjoyment

"My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither,

but just enjoy your ice cream while it is on your plate."

Thornton Wilder

Divinity

"Accept your own divinity.

Everything is a manifestation of Source/God.
When you know that, the power that is LIFE is inside you,

you accept your own divinity,

and yet you are humble,

because you see that see the same divinity in everyone else."
Don Miguel Ruiz
Source: The Mastery of Love by Miguel Ruiz

Growth

"Growth is an erratic forward movement:

two steps forward, one step back.

Remember that and be very gentle with yourself. "

Julia Cameron

Love Deserved

"You can search throughout the entire universe

for someone who is more deserving

of your love and affection than you are yourself,

and that person is not to be found anywhere.

You yourself, as much as anybody

in the entire universe

deserve your love and affection. "

Buddha

Today Discover YOU!

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.

By Marcel Proust

Finding the Humor

"Once had a rose named after me and I was very flattered.

But I was not pleased to read the description in the catalogue:

"No good in a bed, but fine up against a wall."

Eleanor Roosevelt

Having It ALL?

Since I have seen and believe that

the only real purpose we have on this plane,

in our physical realm, is to feel Happy and Joyfilled,

there seems absolutely no reason that we , as individuals,

could come up with, find or subject ourselves to

that would make sense or lead us to any other condition to live in!

Risks

"The dangers of life are infinite, and among them is safety." — Goethe

Wisdom!

~ "The highest wisdom is loving kindness. " ~
Talmud

Live in your Own Created Abundance

Be True To Yourself Even When Others Don't Want You To!


Waiting on others to approve a change

you know you must make in your own life --

an action you must take that will likely lessen

your dependency upon them, and perhaps drive them

to make changes in their habitual choices --

is like hoping that a snowman looks forward to a spring thaw.




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The Reality Behind the Need for Realizing New Relationships


As a result of my deepening interest in truthful ideas,

quite a few of my friends feel I have gone off the deep end,

and I have noticed a growing separation between us

as I work more and more for my own spiritual freedom.

It is not that I don't care for them, but rather

I am becoming less concerned about the things

that have always driven all of us.

My fear is they will eventually want

to have nothing to do with me.

Is it normal for friendships to pass as people change their life and level?

Is this what Christ meant when he said, "Let the dead bury their dead"?

Yes, quite often old friends will fall away as you work

on changing your interior relationship and begin

seeing more about this life and its true purpose.

Think of the company that a caterpillar keeps and then,

as it is transformed, how its new friends have wings and inhabit the sky.

Letting go of those who want to remain earthbound

is at least in part the true inner meaning of

this passage of Christ's that you have cited.

Because I see it as counterproductive to my spiritual work,

I have recently stopped sharing my negative states

with a person near and dear to me,

a friend who is also a practicing psychotherapist.

Now he seems threatened by this new action on my part.

He sees "sharing one's feelings" as the way

to achieve and maintain intimacy.

I don't feel that I can go back to the relationship the way it was.

Can you comment on this?

Congratulations! Through your inner work,

you have stumbled onto a great discovery.

Your sensing and understanding of this change

in relationship is accurate.

This person needs to feed on your weaknesses

in order to feel strong. By your refusing

to supply the food (of negative concerns),

the creature feeding suddenly shows itself.

Don't be afraid to see all of this and its implications.

The change that must occur as a result

of your choice not to be in a conspiracy of woes

will be the dawning of a new

and higher consciousness within yourself.

How do we find others who are also

searching for their true selves?

At times the search causes us to leave former friends behind --

not because we are better, but because we are different.

Here is a highly encouraging thought:

The study of Truth leads us to those relationships

that are beneficial to the Truth we are studying.

It could be said that as you grow in your love of Truth/God,

your newly emerging nature is a law unto itself

that naturally repels what is dissimilar to it

and likewise attracts what is helpful, healthy, and loving.

In short, while it is good to find others who are interested

in the Truth as a part of our own free will,

the search for others who are embracing their true nature

is ultimately directed by our own wish for the Truth.

I am having trouble understanding how to leave

relationships with my friends and family alone.

It seems that the changes I feel are affecting them,

but neither they nor I understand some of these changes.

It is an extremely confusing time for everyone in my life.

Can you help me ease this effect?

The Truth asks us to give it its way in our lives.

The relationships established before the dawning

of any such light within us are naturally going to be

put through necessary changes by the inclusion

of this new understanding as it dawns within us.

Try to understand that we live in a world

of which we see only a tiny, tiny part.

But even in those small glimpses of our physical reality

can we see hints of the celestial one.

What happens to the creatures living in any environment

when that environment is changed?

Some naturally stay, some must leave, and most importantly,

as it concerns our work, new creatures are attracted.

Continue with your work.

Be willing to let the chips fall where they may

with all of your relationships. Be kind, but above all, be true.

The rest will take care of itself.

At times it seems to me that the more I realize

about the awesome nature of spiritual love,

the more loneliness I feel in my current human relationships.

I long to share my discoveries with others,

but who do I turn to?

A certain kind of loneliness, of feeling ourselves all alone,

is a necessary portion of the path to the higher life.

This sense of being alone comes out of realizing

what are the inherent limitations in our actual relationships

in this life, combined with a growing spiritual longing

to commune with others in a deep and meaningful way.

Go through this. We easily forget that there is a God,

a Great Intelligence that guides the steps of anyone

willing to put Him/Truth before all else.

This same Intelligence will lead you to new relationships,

inner and outer ones, in which not only will you

be able to express the love you feel for the Truth,

but this same love will fill you as well.

-- Guy Finley

Roll With The Changes! REO

Click on the title for the link to the tune playing on Youtube!
Roll With The Changes lyrics

As soon as you are able
woman I am willin'
To make the break that
we are on the brink of
My cup is on the table
my love is spillin'
Waiting here for you
to take and drink of

So if you're tired of the same old story
oh, turn some pages
I will be here when you are ready
to roll with the changes, yeah

I knew it had to happen
felt the tables turnin'
Got me through my darkest hour
I heard the thunder clappin'
felt the desert burnin'
Until you poured on me like
a sweet sun shower

So if you're tired of the same old story
oh, turn some pages
I will be here when you are ready
to roll with the changes, oh yeah

(instrumental)

So, if you're tired of the same old story
oh, baby, turn some pages
I will be here when you are ready
to roll with the changes, baby
Roll with the changes
Oh, you know, you know
you know you got to...

Keep on rollin' (oh, yeah)
Keep on rollin' (oh)
Roll with the changes (keep on rollin')
Keep on rollin' (oh, yeah)
Keep on rollin'
Oh, now roll with the changes (oh, baby)
Keep on rollin' (oh, baby)
Keep on rollin'
Oh, you got to learn to roll with the changes (got to, got to, got to, got to...)
Keep on rollin' (got to keep on)
Keep on rollin'
Oh, you got to learn to, got to learn to, got to learn to roll

Keep on rollin'
Keep on rollin'
(ooooooooooooo)...

The Gift of Being You!

You may be just beginning,

already into your day or

about to go off to sleepville for a pleasant rest of your working mind.

Where ever you are at the moment,

STOP!

Take a minute or preferably 5 minutes

and do the most important thing you can do for yourself,

Slow your mind and come to a quieter place in your thoughts!

It may take a few minutes or tries even to get accustomed

to putting on the brakes to all of the thought activity.

It is worth it, please believe me on this one point if nothing else, ever.

This is where it all happens!

In this very moment or nano second

as you begin to decrease the speed

of the millions of thoughts that you process

there is a glimpse of something else there

besides your thoughts.

There is peace as the backdrop to all your thoughts!

There is true guidance,

well being, love and appreciation

for yourself and it all comes back to you there.

The real reason you are here,

"to be Joyful, Happy and continue the expansion of creation

through your discovery and expression of that Joy"

in each and every blip of our time,

makes all the difference to YOU and you and to ALL.

Start right now!

Begin by shifting gears.

Make a written or mental list

of all that you appreciate

in your immediate surroundings.

Start with where you are sitting or lying

and branch out from there.

List all of the people, things, places, colors, temps. conditions

list everything you can think of that you appreciate.

When you are complete for the time

relax into that appreciation and stay present

in it as you go softly and deeply into your SELF

The real Knowing that you are here to do just this.

Appreciate all around you and extract all of the joy and

love and appreciation and gold out of each moment you experience.

Mine your thoughts for the luscious gold they bring to you

Your happiness in the moment is your guide!

You - In the Power Position

As you make the decision that you are not

a mere observer of your world,

but a deliberate and positive contributor to your world,

you will find great pleasure in your involvement

with what is going on upon your planet and in you life.

You cannot be in a place other than where you are right now,

but you do have the power to begin to express your perspective

about where you are in increasingly better ways.

And as you do that consciously and deliberately,

you will see the evidence of the power of your focus

on every subject to which you turn your attention.

As you make the decision that you want to feel good

and you consciously look for positive aspects

within the subjects that you are involved in every day,

and as you deliberately identify and focus

upon what you do want regarding those subjects,

you will set your self upon

a path of Eternal unfolding

Satisfaction and Joy.

Taken from Esther and Jerry Hicks - M0ney and the Law of Attraction

Lies/Beliefs

"Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds

are nothing but lies,

and we suffer because we believe all these lies."

Don Ruiz

The Power Of This Very Moment

Make this your mediation for today and see what happens!

Everything is much simpler than you have thought,

because this moment, where all your power is,

is the only moment in which you can activate a vibration.

Oh, you can activate a vibration about something

that happened a long time ago - but you're doing it

NOW!

You can remember something that happened

a long time ago, or yesterday - but you're doing it

NOW!

You can anticipate something that will happen tomorrow,

or ten years from now - but you're doing it

NOW!

So, whatever you think, causes you to offer a signal,

NOW!

which is your point of attraction.

And when you offer a point of attraction

for as little as 17 seconds,

the Law of Attraction kicks in.

In other words, that's the combustion point,

where another thought that matches it, joins it.

Hold that thought for another 17 seconds

and there's another combustion.

Do that until you have achieved

a vibrational alignment with any thought

for as little as 68 seconds,

and things begin to move enough

that a discerning eye can see

the manifestation has begun.

That's all: 68 seconds of

telling it the way you want it to be

rather than telling it like it is.

Are there things in your life that are

as you want them to be?

Keep telling that story!

Are there things in your life that are

not as you want them to be?

Don't tell that story

The preceding was taken from "Money and the Law of Attraction"

Esther and Jerry Hicks - The Teachings of Abraham

Karma???

"One meaning of Karma which is popularly accepted is that it is one's destiny, or fate, the inescapable 'writing' on the brow, which has to work itself out. There is no escaping it.
Bu people forget that it is not written by some other hand. It is all written by one's own hand. And, the hand that wrote it can also wipe it off."

Charles DiFazio - Appollonius - The Divine Magician

Us - In Coupledom

The following is a slightly modified excerpt from Elizabeth Gilberts book "Committed"

"As a couple, some of our differences are significant, others not so much,

but all of them are inalterable.

In the end, it seems that forgiveness may be the only realistic antidote

we are offered in love, to combat the inescapable disappointments of intimacy.

We humans come into this world - as Aristophanes so beautifully explained -

feeling as though we have been sawed in half,

desperate to find somebody who will recognize us and repair us. (Or re-pair-us.)

Desire is the severed umbilicus that is always with us,

always bleeding and wanting and longing for flawless union.

Forgiveness is the nurse who knows that such immaculate mergers are impossible,

but that maybe we can live on together anyhow

if we are polite and kind and careful not to spill too much blood.

There are moments when we can almost see the space that separates us

-and that always will separate us-

despite how our life long yearnings to be rendered whole by somebody else's love,

despite all our efforts over the years to find someone who would be perfect for us and

who, in turn, would allow us to become some sort of perfected being.

Instead, our dissimilarities and our faults hover between us always, like a shadowy wave.

But sometimes, out of the corner of our eyes,

we catch a glimpse of Intimacy herself,

balancing right there on the very wave of difference

-actually standing there right between us -

actually (heaven help us) standing a chance.

Take a look, Have Happiness NOW!

Stop Going Nowhere Fast!

Running from yourself is the fastest way to go nowhere!


Real Change Begins with Honest Self-Investigation

Nothing seems harder to accept than the fact that we are responsible for so much of what proves to be unnecessary suffering. But we must challenge this involuntary, often intractable refusal to consider such ideas. The truth is that we are actively involved with unseen thoughts and feelings that compromise us. Without the self-knowledge we need to nullify this conflicted condition in our psyche, how can we hope to end the heartaches that begin there? How can we hope to heal something we won't even look at!

On the other hand, nothing is healthier for us than the beautiful process of awakening to how we have been unwittingly involved in our own suffering. We stand in good company when we consent to see these truths within ourselves. All truth teachings agree: freedom from compulsive or otherwise self-wrecking behavior begins with recognizing that we have been unknowingly serving what makes us suffer. Yes, awakening to what has been an unseen conflict in us is a challenge, but this interior work of self-realization is more than offset by the rewards gained for our efforts. Here's why:

Conscious awareness of ourselves is one and the same as living in the Now. It is the seed of a new action whose flowering is a self-wholeness that is inseparable from the higher freedom we seek. Most of us have felt, somewhere along the line of our life, a silent prompting to realize the truth of ourselves, even though we may not have recognized it as such. For instance, at some point we have all felt, intuitively if nothing else, that we are not created to live with mental torment of any kind -- that we are meant to be more than hapless victims forced to yield to passing conditions. This is a true intuition.

We are not made by that Great Intelligence that balances whole star systems, to suffer from the conflict that arises from an unbalanced understanding of our own essential nature! This is why if we ever wish to gain conscious control over our present nature -- along with what it attracts into our life -- we must gain what the great saints and mystics have always held in the highest esteem: true self-knowledge. But this needed higher knowledge cannot be acquired from sources outside of us; it must be gained through personal self-discovery. Only real changes in the level of self-understanding can help us effect real changes in our present nature, for the two are very much related. Change one and we change the other, including what it has been attracting into our lives.

-- Guy Finley

We're back from the Abraham Caribbean Cruise

Oh Man, Oh Man!!

We had a amazingly splendid time on the cruise along with the 700 other Abraham-Hicks seminar attendees and playing in the islands of the Caribbean last week. We are back and full of love and hope for ourselves and the planet. We met so many great, loving and happy filled people. It was challenging to want to leave the cruise ship after experiencing such JOY!

I will be back tomorrow with a post revolving around some interesting

(if you like these sorts of things)

statistics about marriage from a famous contemporary report that was produced not to long ago.

Till then... find a way to be where you are and move yourself just a bit further toward being even happier. Think a thought right now that feels happier to you.

Imagine that it is all that you are here for; to be happy

Bye for now!

Cruise Day

Today we leave for a week long cruise with Esther and Jerry Hicks and the Abraham group.
We will be doing workshops with Abraham all week as we visit warm tropical Islands in the Caribbean.
Puerto Rico - where we will visit our friend Hilda and go to the rain forest
St. Thomas - where we will see friends Dan and Laurie who re on St John
Grand Turks
Half Moon Cay in the Bahamas
We are excited to go, to be with them to participate and to make new friends
I most likely will not have total Internet access and may not post for this time but look forward to sharing it all on the blog when I return. Until then be gentle with your self, love deeply and be spirit filled.

Things That Come Up

“Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.”

Marianne Williamson

Advice to a Longing Individual!

I have closely guarded my heart and feel somewhat reluctant to
let someone in all the way. I just don't know HOW to do that or
WHAT that should look like or feel like. What can I do to open
my heart, to let someone in so I can connect on a deeper level?
How do I learn to be vulnerable so that I can better connect with
the love of my life? What can you suggest to me?

The good news is, “You can start from right where you are. There’s no need to hold on to or repeat the past indefinitely!” You obviously know what you want as an end result (this is of primary importance) but, you seem to be able to thwart your own efforts in having that. You are not alone!
If you are not attracting the love of your life to you then it is wise to look at what you are attracting and how. One effective, relatively quick, way of doing that is to do a specific program that will allow you to get clear for your self what your personal requirements, needs and wants are in the way of an intimate love relationship. I mean really clear! Your “Work” to uncover these things will soon allow you to be sending clear signals and collecting the signs for who matches your requirements and shares your values and commitment to a healthy, loving, vibrant, fulfilling, life long, intimate relationship. It is possible and worth it! Find a mentor, coach or mastermind group to help you facilitate the process and share in your success!

When You're In Alignment, You Know!

If you have a Car or have driven one, you intrinsically know what it feels like when your car is in alignment; It goes where you point it, as you cruise down the highway the car goes straight almost effortlessly, the wheel stays straight in position even when you remove your hands from it, there's no pulling or vibration or strain in going where you want to go. It feels good and as it should be. The same is true with our lives with one big, noticeable difference. When the car is in alignment the car is in alignment and that's it. No one congratulates, supports, enhances, appreciates or even notices it.

When we are in personal alignment

with our purpose and passion,

the Universe, Source, notices.

All things, people, places and results begin to alter in order to support and enhance your current and future experiences. This mysteriously happens not only to allow you to continue to be in alignment but works to bring all that you experience into focus abundantly, exponentially and seemingly magically, and here's the best part, without effort. You feel great and things fall in to place that may have previously seemed impossible.

Out of alignment condition or symptoms with a vehicle have a lot of similarity with our human "out of alignment" condition or symptoms. They are usually experienced as something feeling different or not quite right or as it should be. When these symptoms occur they also do not usually happen abruptly, over night, but happen a little over time.

At first it is actually noticeable but, being only a slight deviation from the norm in sound or feel, it is actually avoidable. And because we believe that it is really not causing a major issue we just let it go or deal with it as it is. Sometimes, we just let go because of the variety of reasons that we can present to not manage these types of things. Until it finally gets to the point that it can't be avoided anymore or has caused some other issue to seem as if it has been caused by the out of alignment. More often that not though, out of alignment is caused by some wear in a part of the whole system that required attention that we didn't even know how to detect or know that it needed attention.

When you begin to notice an "out of personal alignment" things seem not to fall into place easily you begin to notice there is something off in what you think or feel, in your everyday experiences, that you say shouldn't be happening. There may be this slight difference in the way you steer yourself through the day or week or you feel that slight pull to the side as you attempt to go straight. You also probably know intuitively, even if you're not mechanically inclined, that something is not right or just doesn't feel right.

At this very moment, just as with the car,

what you choose to physically do,

whether in the midst of driving your car or

navigating personally through your day,

is not really of much importance!

While the car is pulling to the left, over steering to the right does not resolve the issue or fix the problem. You may be able to get where you're going but you still know something has to be done. Likewise, you know when you're feeling off that you can make it through the day or week but that making it through by avoiding or doing what ever you do to steer clear of the problem does not really resolve it but, only serves to delay the inevitable. Something has to be adjusted in order to have it or us, back in full flow and in alignment with what we want and desire for ourselves.

So, if there is nothing physically to do for us to get back to alignment what then is our option?
It is really quite simple but can also be challenging at first. Although if you take this on you will see almost immediate results.

Monitor the thoughts you are thinking!

Alter your thoughts to those that are pointed in the right direction!

What you want and where you want to be for your life

are of the utmost importance!

Think yourself into position and feel when you are on track or off track!

The thoughts that you think are the worn pieces that need to be replaced before the alignment can happen.

Your feelings are what tell you if you're on or off track!

Feeling Bad?

You're not thinking thoughts that are aimed in the right place, you're out of alignment.

Feeling good?

You're on track and you are aligned with your wants and desires.

Feeling Bad or Good!

You will get unconditional support from Source either way!

I am most willing, if you are ready, to assist you in determining what your thoughts are that are keeping you away from what you want and getting you back into alignment.

This is what coaches do best. We love it!

If you're ready, contact me at 1extraordinarycoach@gmail.com or call me at 860-209-9254.

In my next post, I will give you at least one real life inspiring example of what happens to someone when they get in alignment by changing their thoughts towards what they want instead of continuing on with an unsuitable set of circumstances.

Take Quiet Command of Stormy Thoughts and Feelings!

Stormy thoughts and feelings can no more overcome

your quiet awareness of them,

than do rain drops have the power to wash away

the sky through which they pour.

Guy Finley

Try These Today!

With all your heart say out loud

I want to live a happy life

Listen to what you have just said

Take notice of things

Surround yourself with people you love

Listen to the wind

Imagine

Let evrything change all the time

Let go of the why

Welcome miracles

Thank Source Constanly

Breathe

Tell the truth about how you feel

Make choices

Want what you want

Let the animals reach you

Have children teach you

Take good care of your body

Love passionately

Share your dreams

Spread your gifts

Check it out

Forgive the past

Dive in

Eat it up

Take chances

Be Real

(Julie Evans)

Start The Day Off Pointing in The Right Direction!

Before you read, Click on the Title of this post and enjoy the music.

Happy Sunday to you!

Where I am this morning the sun is shining, the birds are singing their Spring songs in multitude and Spring is in evidence every where I look!

What do you need to do to create/see evidence for the happiness of Spring for you today?

Stop in this moment and other moments during your day today & notice the good around you. See it - Actively look for it, in everything!

Notice how good you feel!

Notice the love you have for the people and things in your life!

You do not need to look very far beyond where you are

to see something that brings you comfort or Joy!

The more you notice the more you will notice

and you will ultimately create and avalanche of feeling good

in your minutes, hours, day, your life.

It is a very worthwhile experiment to notice what makes you feel good.

Try it and please let me know what shifts for you!

My Response to a Pondering Wise Man!

Ask the Coach!

Communication Skills: How can Improve them?

I'm not a great communicator and that creates challenges for my wife who is much more skilled in that area. When we have disagreements, when we're trying to work through relationship things, I have difficulty feeling heard, expressing my ideas, etc.

Because of that, I get defensive and either close down or get angry which just escalates into an argument. That, of course, doesn't work well for either of us and leads to hurt feelings, regret for saying things we shouldn't have and the like.
I need a better way for us to communicate and I need to learn some better skills.

I love my wife and I want her to be happy,

and I know I need to understand what I can do to create a better situation for both of us.

So my questions are --

What can I do to be a better communicator, and what can we do, as a couple, to communicate better with each other?

Thoughts?

I am so glad you asked!!!

Stop, in this moment, acknowledging what’s so about your communication skills

and commit to obtaining your desire anew, right here, right now!
Begin, at once, saying what you want to be so for you.

I see that you are already capable of doing this “wanting projection”

when I read that you want your wife to be happy.

Now do that same projection for yourself, in this area of desire!

Do you want to be defensive, unheard, angry or closed off?

I think not!

Your natural highest desire is calling you into what you do want; easy going, heard, happy and open to your wife and others, as evidenced by your very questioning.

(which is obviously the opposite end of those original statements)

In order to achieve that; think, speak & seek evidence for only what you do want.

Each time you have the experience of or notice your way of life not being what you want,

which feels bad to you,

catch yourself and think in that moment,

"What can I think, say and do, right now that will make me feel good?”

If your aim is here, your world and that of your wife’s will alter in the moment

and your communication will shift as well.

Immediately!

Have it your way!!

Shape Shifting - At It's Scariest and Best

I need to tell you that my life changed today!
It has been coming for a while and the last two weeks have been, being honest, a very difficult challenge. Sometimes to the point where I was not sure that I was willing to go the whole way through this process (again).
I was so challenged by this personal metamorphosis, that I was thinking and believing that I really may not ever be able to have my requirements met in my most intimate relationship.

Then on Wednesday, after yet another argument with Meg, maybe the fifth or sixth day (or was it 3 weeks) of consecutive daily arguments, where I was again, damn near, resigned to the fact that my requirements were not getting met and that she didn't care to ry to meet them that, I got really angry, threw stuff and walked away.
Cussin and spittin!
It was in the moments that immediately followed, that the light turned on for me. I was all of a sudden, instantly able to see something, still not fully clear, about me that was, not just present in my life with Meg but, was spread across and predominant in all areas of my life.
I went back to attempt to talk and to explain it to Meg but, still what came out of my mouth were words that had not yet caught up with where I was heading, or so I thought.
I was still saying, "This is who I am, I am like this with everybody, I like being like this, I have developed this way of being for a reason, if you can't be with this then perhaps we are over as a couple!" But it was in my saying these things that it actually popped. Like the sound of when one of your bones break or your shoulder come sout of it's socket. Something popped and I was now about to see and hear what it was.
It happened to be the words captured and surrounded within the string of words I had just spewed, that were the key to unlock the door to my next level of personal freedom.

I said, " I am Like This With Everybody."
As soon as my mind heard those words my intensity trailed off. It realized that it had just solved its own dilemma. The questions started filing in; Is this why you feel so disappointed with most everyone you come in contact with daily? Is this why you are never satisfied with how you are treated in restaurants, stores, on the phone with customers, representatives, sales people, customer service attendants, literally everyone?
Is this what creates your constant unease and general dissatisfaction in life no matter what you do? Could it be that this is what generates your obvious discord and prevents you from being truly happy?
Am I really, really responsible for the way my life is occurring at this level? Is it really me?

The answer was unavoidable. It was true. It was me and the very way I have been holding others responsible for my own happiness; seamlessly embedded into my way of being that looked perfectly as if it was them, all of them. This is the second time in my life where I am absolutely certain and aware of the consciousness shift that has taken place with full knowledge that there is no returning to the way It was.
Holy Shit and Thanks to Source, both at the same time in the very same breath and thought.

I saw that I had a broadcast, intense and fully networked, yet undisclosed to the purveyor, set of expectations that was running the show in all categories and undermining my ability to have Full Joy, as an option, in my life. The expectations excluded my opportunity to have that Joy!
Today, at the very moment of argument outset, of what was quickly going to escalate to a full out yelling match, based, yet again, on the fact that Meg was not meeting my unspoken expectation in this moment; I was able to stop it, immediately, on the spot and choose to have peace and joy with her. In that instant, and it really did happen in litterally 5 seconds or less, both of us were warped back to the happy life we are committed to expressing as our intent and intending to live out daily.
It was that simple and took that much awareness on my part. Sounds simple but it was a process that took many more, countless more 5 second periods stacked on top of each other.
My mind wanted to engage but my heart and commitment took over and in that instant it was gone.
It happened in a way that I wished had been easier to get to but, was so miraculous, in the moment, that I experienced floating on air and the precious shift that occurs emotionally that assures you that you have crossed the bridge.
Sweet Liberation and Peace emanated from my soul and well being was the sentiment.

Now ,I am not scientifically certain that what occurred for me actually caused the shift for Meg but,, in that moment it was simultaneous. She shifted as well her world got lighter and we simply got on with living our moments together in love and wellness.

Then, later on in the afternoon, Meg and I were in the truck with Jazz, heading to the beach and the driving range and Meg shared that she wants to included the things we are really excited about into our daily appreciations and also to live a life where she is and, hopefully we are, expressing ourselves with excitement when we are experiencing all the aspects of our life.

You cannot imagine how awesome this was for me to hear this. I have been asking, nay, begging, Meg to come off of the center line where she has been living life, where everything is just alright and OK, for many years. And now, here she is declaring that that is how she wants to live her life. EXCITED! Well, I am excited too!
I yawned when she said it just to add a little smack to the moment and she laughed. Of course she did, she's excited.
This is truly a miracle in our lives. The fact that my revelation and shift occurred today may not be the reason that hers did in this area but, it is too much of a coincidence to not link them together.
What an experience! The truth revealed once again. They do not bring it to the processing table we do! I do! I did! AMEN!