The One Wish That Makes All Others Come True

The One Wish That Makes All Others Come True
by Guy Finley

Key Lesson: Until the wish to know myself comes before the wish to please myself, it's impossible to do either one.


Let Self-Knowledge Light the Way Ahead
Few are those content with the direction their lives have taken; fewer are the men and women willing to learn why their destiny feels outside their control; and fewer still are those individuals who persist upon the path of self-discovery until realizing the truth of why their worlds unfold as they do.

One of the sad reasons why so few men and women persist in the inner work necessary for higher self-discovery is because we have all become -- to one degree or another --either an unwitting captive of, or willing participant in, what can only be described as a descending scale in the meaning of life.

More simply stated, over time our values have been subtly shifting away from the love of the wisdom of life to the excitement of striving to win at life, from the possibility of a self-renewing relationship with eternal forces to the promise of increasingly one-sided interactions with what amounts to little more than the pursuit of temporary possessions.

Only the ignorance of ourselves to what is possible for each of us to actually be, as opposed to what we hope to have -- but never seem to secure -- could allow such a meaningless state of self to persist and become self-perpetuating. Only self-ignorance would accept a mediocre life as the inescapable conclusion to the deep discontentment inherent in any direction supplied by self-ignorance.

What this proves, if we'll agree to reflect upon the truth being presented, is that higher self-knowledge, real wisdom, represents the rudder we must have to correct the course of this drifting ship we call self. Why? Because the happy truth is that we are not so much lost in the sea of choices life offers us as we are just adrift amongst them; caught up in their ever-changing currents and unsure as to which shore is our homeland. So wisdom is not only the higher course, but our safe harbor as well.

But it isn't enough to just learn the principles of wisdom. Studying wise principles without putting them into practice is like learning how to read music but never owning an instrument through which to experience the sound of those notes you know. True wisdom is not theory. It is the fruit of experience whose seed is action. The wise are not those most learned, but the best tempered by truths put to the test of life.

It is essential for any person intending to be more than a leaf in the wind of life to learn the truth of him or herself by boldly jumping into these very same winds. Life, as it is --and not as we'd wish it to be -- is our school, teacher, and teaching. Each event and relationship therein is our own field, grain, thresher, oven, and bread, making our willingness to dive into life's lessons the determining factor in whether we learn to rise above this world or remain ruled by it. The choice is ours, so the more knowledgeable we are about ourselves the fewer questions we will have about which path we choose.

Prove to yourself that just as the absence of self-understanding is the same as standing in darkness, new and true self-knowledge serves as the Light that lights the way. The ability to see, clearly, the way ahead of you is the same as being empowered to make those choices called determining your own destiny.

This article is excerpted from Design Your Destiny (pages 142-145)

This morning I had the opportunity to see, yet again, how my conversation impacts my life on an everyday basis. You may or may not have experienced this for yourself or even know what the heck I am talking about or this may sound like familiar knowledge to you but what I really mean is this...
I realized, while I was on the phone this morning, that they way I said something actually expressed a "created truth," "The way it is!" about the way I was percieving an aspect of my life from a negative viewpoint.
My new friend, Lisa Bard Clement, on the other end of the phone, who is very committed to saying what is so from the perspective of "What You Say Creates Your World," reminded me of something I know to be a very powerful, magically magnetic and that what I had just said had me leaning in the direction of and actually bolstering up what I didn't like or want in my life, verses sharing what was going on for me in this arena from the other side of the perspective

A video of the The Author of the book Awesome

This is worth a watch!
Click on the link or on the title above and it will bring you to the You Tube Video!
Enjoy!
You're Awesome to me!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yd53yY_3dX4&feature=player_embedded

A Good Day!

Take 5 minutes and enjoy a refreshing perspective on your day, Today!

Do You Have Lasting Anger!

Take a look at where your anger is placed and what you are angry about.

Often, we get angry when we feel out of control regarding some presented aspect of life.

Thus, the control of our lives is the issue not the aspect presented.

If that’s even a little true for you, I have good news and bad news;

you are in control of everything, even and especially your reactions.

Determining how you want your experience of life to be,

regardless of circumstances, is not wishing it so.

It is the fundamental requirement for

freedom of choice and deep, lasting, personal happiness.

Otherwise, you are the ball in the pinball machine called life,

with no personal recourse or direction.

You could just wait and see what happens but,

that is just more of the same.

Or, you could take on self determination,

personal awareness and

definition of what matters.

As you begin to discover what you really want

from your life experience

and plot a course full of inspired actions

you will see immediate results.

Achieving happiness requires uncovering

what’s holding you in place

and choosing if you still want the result

those behaviors and reactions offer.

Be Your Best

Don't Accept Anything Less Than the Best You Can Be
Learn never to blame another for the pain you feel,

nor to complain about anything that life brings to your door;

but this doesn't mean to be accepting of those who would see you ache,

nor should you be apathetic in the face of anything

that challenges your hopes and aspirations.

Guy Finley

Law of Attraction & The Love of Your Life

You have most likely read "something" or at least heard
about the Law Of Attraction and the process of
setting goals and focusing on what you really want.
Have you ever wondered if you can you use these
concepts to set goals when it comes to dating
or meeting the love of my life in, say, 90 days?
Or, if it is possible at all to set a goal for
something that seems so, fate driven?
Well lets take a quick look at; what this means,
if this is applicable and if so, how you would do this?

I'll begin with a question.
What if you have already met the love of your life?
Do you think that you would you know it?
Utilizing the characteristics of The Law of Attraction
requires your direct attention.
This process requires you to take a look
and identify what you really want in a partner and
what you really bring to the prospect
of actualizing your personal “love of your life” story.
Becoming more conscious of your specific requirements,
needs and desires of that ideal mate and importantly,
your ideal relationship will require you
to do some deep looking at what you hold
as valuable in these areas.
Identifying what is most important
in those categories and in your life
will give you access and clear vision
for what you say you want.
With that new clarity you will then
be able to determine who and what is a fit
for your dream love relationship.
Furthermore, since you will now be looking
specifically for the mate that fills
your very specific vision you are now
most likely to notice when that person
appears on your radar and if the personal
characteristics of the individual
and the way you move together,
is a match for you.
That’s the Law of Attraction in action!

Say Hello to your New Life Vision

You are NOT a Victim of Circumstance!
You are, however, experiencing life from your unique perspective

and, very importantly,

that perspective has you, and sometimes only you,

focus your view on certain things and experience them as only you can.
This may be why you think things are only happening to you.

But there is great, exciting news buried in this "GIFT."

Try out this short experiment, for yourself, if you have any doubt that this is true.

Stand where you are, right now, next to someone and focus your vision

and thoughts on something that is happening right in front of both of you.
Don't speak about it to the other person or even mention what you are focusing on.
When the event that you observed is over,

ask the other person what they saw,

what they thought about it

and how it made them feel.

Regardless of what you both saw,

even if by slight chance it happened to be the same event,
the way you saw it, even down to the position of viewing,
what you thought about what you saw

and especially how you felt or emotionally experienced what you saw is

uniquely personal and subjective.

This personal viewing, interpretation and taking in as true and real

can act as verifications of what you BELIEVE to be true.

As you probably noticed in your experiment

what you saw, thought about and felt

was not what the other person saw.

How can that be

when you were both looking in the same direction,

standing right nest to each other

and what you saw was right there in front of both of you

and so obvious and so REAL.

This short experiment and outcome illustrate

that it is very possible and most likely that what you are viewing as you life experience

is not necessarily the TRUTH or even REAL for that matter.

This is the GOOD NEWS!

If what you have been seeing and making mean a certain thing in your life,

especially if it has been making you feel bad

or providing you with a set of circumstances

that have you held or stuck in a way or thinking

or giving you on going results that you are not happy with,

YOU CAN CHANGE THE WAY YOU VIEW LIFE

and as a result

HAVE A NEW VIEW,

HAVE NEW THOUGHTS,

NEW FEELINGS

AND BEST OF ALL,

NEW RESULTS

It doesn't take much!

Just an Openness

that this may be true and available to you

and then you personal

Commitment and Practice!

For today,

just try the experiment a couple of times!

Your NEW LIFE Vision Begins NOW!

Extraordinary Tale of Passion, Wisdom and Compassion

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Continuation of Appreciation

Appreciation as a Secret of Success
An important reason for being in a state of appreciation as often as possible is that when you are in such a state, you are in one of the highest emotional states possible.
When you are in a state of appreciation and gratitude, you are in a state of abundance. You are appreciating what you do have instead of focusing on, and complaining about, what you don’t have. Your focus is on what you have received… and you always get more of what you focus on.
And because the law of attraction states that like attracts like, the more you are in a state of gratitude, the more you will attract, and the grateful you will feel. It becomes an upward-spiraling process of ever-increasing abundance that just keeps getting better and better.
Think about it. The more grateful people are for the gifts we give them, the more inclined we are to give them more gifts. Their gratitude and appreciation reinforces our giving. The same principle holds true on a universal and spiritual level as it does on an interpersonal level.

Keeping Score
When I first learned about the power of appreciation, it made total sense to me. However, it was still something that I forgot to do. I hadn’t yet turned it into a habit.
A valuable technique that I employed to help me lock in this new habit was to carry a 3” x 5” card in my pocket all day, and every time I acknowledged and appreciated someone, I would place a check mark on the card. I would not allow myself to go to bed until I had appreciated 10 people. If it was late in the evening and I didn’t have 10 check marks, I would appreciate my wife and children, I would send an e-mails to several of my staff, or I would write a letter to my mother or stepfather.
I did whatever it took until it became an unconscious habit. I did this every single day for 6 months—until I no longer needed the card to remind me.
Excerpted From Jack Canfield

Appreciation Is The Key!

Take a minute or two today to go back in time to a place where you were simply overjoyed and or thrilled about something you were involved in or with.
For me I used to listen to the Beatles records as loud as I could take it. Because I did not have headphones I would lay on the floor and put the two small speakers right next to my ears on either side of my head. The stereo sound was sound precise and powerful listening that way that I felt as if i were one of them and on stage with them as they played. That led me later to playing guitar, performing, recording and just simply loving music and allowing it to alter my experience of life when ever i hear it live and even it the car with the windows rolled up and blasting away while I accompany on the dashboard drums. I am moved and all of the doors of joy open up and all is really well.
Try it today. Give yourself the gift of bringing yourself into true deep appreciation for something or things that really moved you in the past and allow yourself to be moved again now.
Take a look at how the world looks from that place. Then simply look at what else you appreciate about where you are right now and what you have your attention on this day. See if anything shifts inside you.
Really enjoy yourself today!

Love/Being Heard

Being heard is so close to being loved

that for the average person,

they are almost indistinguishable.
David Augsburger

Goals

Goals
The major reason for setting a goal

is for what it makes of you to accomplish it.

What it makes of you will always be

the far greater value than what you get.
Jim Rohn

Freedom

"Sometimes you've got to let everything go—purge yourself . . .

If you are unhappy with anything . . .

whatever is bringing you down, get rid of it.

Because you'll find that when you're free,

your true creativity,

your true self comes out. "
Tina Turner (1939-) I, Tina (1986)

Serendipity

Serendipity!

Look for something,

find something else,

and realize that what you've found

is more suited to your needs

than what you thought you were looking for.

Lawrence Block

Open Yourself to What Wants to Open You

The unseen seed of every success -- of every great work of art, and every light that has ever helped illuminate the human journey -- began with someone being open to a new possibility in life and saying "Yes" to it... regardless of personal cost.

Find the Love That's Looking for You

Love is a latent interior "hunger" we all feel through our longing to know -- deeply -- someone or something to which we are drawn. And Love understands that whatever we will agree to draw near to ensures -- given time -- we will come to know it; and then, transformed by Her magic through a marriage of a sort, we become as one with what was once unknown to us.

Don't think this too strange an idea. The hidden Principle of Love is that only through Her do we find in the object of our affection something of ourselves: that proverbial missing piece of the perennially empty heart.

The beauty of Love is that She is already within everything; which means that there is nothing that we are drawn to know by Love's invitation that won't grant us for our journey itself the gift of a greater relationship with Love. Now here is what these last few ideas have been leading up to:

If we want to receive love we have to give it. What this means is that we must journey to Her before She will consent to be known. This is the courtship Love requires of those who long to possess Her. Of course it's mysterious, but who doesn't love a mystery!

Now, in far more practical terms, here are some ideas how to begin this journey of the Heart:

First, give your love to something. Do something with your love. Find something you love and then set out to make it your own. Never mind if you don't have any one love for any one thing in this life. Forget the whole idea of love for the moment and ask yourself: "To what am I drawn? What is it that interests me?"

Whatever impressions you may feel from this sincere inquiry are the invisible magnetic impulses of a secret Heart, a pulse of Love that has been buried in you beneath layers -- perhaps lifetimes -- of misdirection. That is why you must take the next few instructions to heart.

Never mind if you are attracted to something but feel unable to start because you are afraid of failing in your quest. Be assured of this: Whatever it may be that you are drawn to know -- whether it is to learn a new skill, grow a flower garden, develop an artistic skill, to help others, design clothes or cars, or set out towards a deeper interior life whose center is Love Herself -- I tell you the only thing that matters is that you just start!

You can't know this yet, but it is Love that calls you to Her side for whatever is your eventual choosing, and it is Love within you that feels this drawing. So do you know what this means? Just consider: Love will not, cannot fail Herself. It is more likely the sun would fall from the sky than for Love not to begin to shine through your nascent efforts. Your first reward will be to feel the warmth of knowing you are nearing the beginning of a whole New Life.

Forget what others may think of you for your new aim to do your heart's desire. Disregard those whose reality is a rut! Misery wants company. Do Love's bidding instead. Persist with your working wish and Love will grant you the company of Herself. And as you gradually draw nearer to Her side you will know that nothing anyone thinks towards you could possibly add one cubit to your stature.

Brush aside any concerns you have (for whatever the reasons) of being unable to make a "big" beginning. Just start where you are and with what you have -- even if this means taking a step so small that not one person on earth notices you have just left one world and entered another. Any beginning that you will make for the sake of answering the call of your heart is the same as a beginning whose happy ending already resides right within that same initial action.

Don't be the least concerned if you can't seem to find the time -- or the energy -- to get going because of life's seemingly endless "duties" to family or friends. Drop these punishing (and false) ideas. Listen instead to this promise that Love makes to anyone willing to draw near enough to hear Her whisper Her secret:

Do what you must to make time and you will see that the energy you need to succeed will be given to you.

Love lends her force to the entire universe, so don't you think that if you were to ask rightly for a bit of it -- for Her sake -- that She would give you the measure you need? Of course She will! All you need do is just make some time, give some moments to your intended journey. Even if all you can muster to get started with is two minutes a day, just place your attention on what you want to love, and it will love you back by giving you a bit of itself.

Persist with this new Work until you see -- which you will if only you will stay the course -- that the love you thought you had chosen was really Love choosing you. And when at last you realize that it has always been this way, then, for you, it will always be so... until the end of time.

How may you be assured that all of this is True?

It is Love that tells you so.

-- Guy Finley

Reexamine

Walt Whitman:

" Reexamine all that you have been told in school, or in church or in any book.

Dismiss whatever insults your soul."

The first quote from Walt Whitman gives us a mandate to review all that we have been told and thus believe or have taken on to be true. And how he says to do that is to look inside and see if it feels good or not. He then instructs us to "dismiss" whatever insults our soul.

This is some of the most useful advice we can consider. Doing this regularly will in fact have a huge affect on our well being and joyous experience of life.

Your experience is a clear indication of the thoughts that you think.

When you change the thoughts that you are thinking, your experience,

or indicator, must change also,

It is Law!

Abraham

If you are not feeling good or experiencing life from a great place than take this on;

Look at what your thoughts are right now.

Does what you are thinking right now produce a good feeling or a bad feeling?

If it is good than bask in the good feeling and think another deliberate good feeling thought from that place. Continue focusing on good feeling thoughts or all of the positive aspects of your present situation. Watch what happens from there on. It just gets better in all categories!

If you are feeling bad than ask your self, from where you are presently standing, what is one better feeling thought that I could have right now?

Notice one thing around you that you could appreciate some aspect of?

Choose to have one better feeling thought about any aspect of anything at even the smallest detail level. In example, the color of the wallpaper, the interesting pattern in the carpet, the color of the sky or sun or leaves or flowers around you. Put yourself in the presence of your pet or some aspect of nature and appreciate some aspect of that which you have chosen.

There is nothing more to do. Do this is any moment you choose and find a way to choose a better feeling thought about anything at any time and it will continue to catapult your view of your life and put you in alignment with what you came here to accomplish.

Your own happiness and expansion.

Dreams

"When your heart is in your dreams,

no request is too extreme."

Jiminy Cricket